Secrets To Attract Men

When I was growing up my mother always told me, " Just be yourself and men will like you," or " If he doesn't like you it is his loss." Sound familiar? Well it never felt like his loss. It felt like mine.

Perhaps you have wondered why women who might not be as pretty smart, talented or funny as you always seem to have dates on Saturday night, while you stay at home in front of the tube. The answer is one that you may have guessed - they know the secret of seduction.

This is a secret that has been passed down for ages from Queens to movie actresses, to current day divas. It is part of the reason why they have been able to attain and keep their titles.

What is this secret to attracting men? Well here is a hint - it has almost nothing to do with what they looked like. Cleopatra, for example, is one of history's greatest seductresses and yet from all accounts she was plain bordering on unattractive. No the secret has more to do with how they saw themselves and the world arround them than how their physical attributes. Cleopatra believed that she was the most beautiful woman in the world and her belief was so strong that others began to see her that way, as well.

Let's face it physical beauty changes with the latest fad. We had Twiggy, Marilyn and now Kate Moss and Cindi Crawford. Each a different weight, hair color, eye color. But I bet they all had an image of themselves and the world around them that ended up with them on top and amazing men clamoring to be with them.

So what is the secret to attracting men? Well, it begins with envisioning yourself as a hot, desireable woman. Picture yourself the focal point of men's interest starting today - not when you lose ten pounds or get your teeth whitened or your nose straightened.

Next picture the type of men that you want to be attracted to you. Imagine them down to the last detail. What qualities should they have both physically and emotionally? Do you want a guy to cuddle with on the couch or one who constantly takes you out on the town. Visualize your ideal scenario.

Do just these two steps every morning for ten minutes and right before you go to sleep for ten minutes. Add more visualization time as you can throughout the day. The more you picture it, the more real it will become to you.

Start with this to gain confidence and to get rid of the " he would never be interested in me" mentality. Then once you have that firmly programmed into your brain you can start on the external aspects like how you look and what you could be doing to align yourself with your vision ( ex. getting off the couch on Saturday nights and getting out there where your dream man can find you).

By: Caterina Christakos